Am I the only one who is suffering from My Child Must Hate Me disorder?

So the other day I was checking up on my Oldest Daughters Facebook Page.....that's what good Mom's do right?

And yes, this is the same daughter I emotionally scarred in my last post! :(

This is a summary of what I found....

Daughters Status Update: Got home from Camping, FUN...but way behind in my Homework!

Comments that followed.....

Facebook Friend #1: Forget Homework, Go Play the Piano! :)

Facebook Friend #2: You better step up your game and play for the Pillow Concert!

Facebook Friend #3: No, you wanna get ur Homework done first so you get into the habit before High school....

My Daughters Response....and this is when it gets UGLY (For me)

I agree with all of you but I am not my Mother, I can not practice for the pillow concert, do ALL my missing homework and still eat, sleep, go to school and maybe have a life.

I wont lie...I've shed a few tears over this as I've pondered what exactly she meant by it. However.....it doesn't take a Brain Scientist to figure out that I have obviously given her some sort of complex by keeping myself so spread thin.

After I attended Woman's Conference at BYU I knew that I needed to Simplify my life. That I needed to eliminate the fluff that kept me so busy...unfortunately, there were a few things I had already committed myself for that I couldn't get out of.

Now I can admit my flaws...I don't cook, I don't like to clean, and I am definitely not crafty. The one thing I thought I excelled at as a Mom was the fact that I could balance so many things all at once. It breaks my heart to think that the one thing Ive considered myself good at as a Mom.....has actually came back to bite me in the butt!

So now what do I do?

I confronted her about it, and talked with her about how I would never want her to EVER compare herself to me, but somehow I get the feeling that it wasn't enough. I just cant seem to get her to realize that I am the one with the problem, not her. That she is perfect just the way she is and that its me who has the issues. Do I think some of this is stemming for her age...Ofcourse. I mean, I am sure at 11, she is just starting to figure out who she is and who she is not.

I know that...... I need to stop volunteering myself for so many different things...That I need to stop piling more and more on my plate.

What I don't know is how?

I mean....Is it always easier said then done? It just seems to me that at this point.... everyone is just so used to me saying Yes....with a big smile on my face, that I am usually the first person they come to when they need help. How do I stop the cycle that I have created for myself? Especially with the commitments I have already made for the year? Any ideas? I would love to hear them!!